Why Matriarchy Might Be The Only Solution

It’s not all men they say.

But, actually … yes, it is. And we all know it.

I have watched from the sidelines for years now. As all women do.

Watching how – with the confidence that only a mediocre white male can have – they slowly but determinedly drove everything into the ground.  Society, values, standards, security, harmony, children and women. All because of growth. Of expansion. Of stakeholder’s interest.

I don’t want to burst your bubble if you are still in the traditional economic mindset of eternal growth.

Reality check: Nothing can grow forever.

Nature knows this.

Most sane human beings know this.

Indigenous people know this.

The only people who do not know this apparently are – again – predominantly old white men

Who, as a matter of fact, are truly the ones in positions of power right now (and have been for the last centuries). Patriarchy truly was the most detrimental societal development human history has ever witnessed.  It is based on hierarchy, on mine-is-better-than-yours mentality, and on suppressing others.

It has taught men entitlement and white male privilege has become the ultimate drug.

And, most importantly, it has shaped how women (and men) define themselves, how they connect with themselves and others, how they interact, how they treat everything around them, what they value and how they allow others to treat them.

Women are facing violence every day – and you don’t even realise it.

The ZZZ-chats and videos.

The platform that Gisele Peligaud’s case exposed and got cancelled, recently was claimed to get reinstalled.

Approximately 83,000 women and girls intentionally get killed worldwide in 2024, with around 60% (50,000) murdered by intimate partners or family members. This equates to roughly 137 women killed every day by someone in their own family, or one woman killed every 10 minutes. In Germany, the chief of police advised women publicly to not enter a relationship with a man because by doing it she heightens her risk to be subjected to physical and psychological violence. He actively advocated against having a relationship with a man – on national TV.

Gender pay gap, job disparity, abortion bans and motherhood penalty – these are psychological and financial forms of violence. Taking away agency, means and choice are subtle, but very effective ways to control any group of people. Unfortunately, this has become the norm for women. Sometimes more, sometimes less. As Western women we have the privilege of still having many rights, but we still are denied some of the basics that men have. Women in Afghanistan have no rights anymore, all agency, all choices, all means gone. Yet, they once had it all – they had the right to vote, to wear short skirts, to become politicians, doctors and lawyers. It was a slippery slope of democracy being ripped from their hands. Because men indoctrinated by a male-centred religious and political system feared them, wanted to become superior. As always.

When I start to bring this conversation to this point, I hear men claim that they didn’t do anything. Yes, that might be true. You might have never threatened, humiliated or oppressed a woman. But, do you need to be in a chat to be complicit as a man? To personally assault her to be held accountable?

My answer is No.

If you simply accept the status quo and don’t do a thing to change it, you are complicit.

Whatever you do not fight, you condone and support. Full stop.

I just read this week the phenomenal quote that if there are 12 Nazis asking you for dinner and you accept, then there are 13 Nazis. Same goes with mysogyny. If you support and befriend those that act against women, children and those that are poor, you are a part of the problem. You are the problem. And yes, it is all men who do not actively try to change the status quo. 

Women have been fed the idea of men being in charge, being superior in some kind of strange way for way too long. The crumbling of the facade has started already, the despicable behaviour of men in power as well as their corporations, business affiliations and social circles are getting more exposed by the day.

Some numbers that might make you think about the correlation between men and the state of the world:

Globally men commit about 90% of violent crime, and a 2013 UN study found men made up about 95% of convicted homicide perpetrators worldwide.

93% of prison inmates are men

92% of CEOs worldwide are men

90% of heads of state and government are male,  72.5% of all legislative seats are held by men

The vast majority of aggressors leading into war have been men with very few female exceptions like Golda Meir.

When we look to what is happening in the world,

Ocean plastic patch: There is an ocean patch three times the size of France completely made up of plastic debris that is killing marine wildlife. This is the Great Pacific Garbage Patch

Exxon knew: Exxon’s own scientists warned executives as early as 1977 that burning fossil fuels was heating the planet, and a 2023 Harvard-led study found Exxon accurately modeled global warming from 1977 to 2003 — then spent decades publicly denying it. ClimateintegrityHarvard Gazette

Diversity/extinction: The WWF’s 2024 Living Planet Index found an average 73% decline in monitored wildlife populations between 1970 and 2020; scientists debate whether we’re formally in a “sixth mass extinction” Our World in Data

Billionaires vs. hunger: 673 million people faced hunger in 2024, and 2.3 billion people (28% of the world) were moderately or severely food insecure. Meanwhile Forbes recorded 3,428 billionaires in 2026). So: 673 million hungry vs. ~3,000 billionaires — and only about 13% of these billionaires are women, for example Taylor Swift. Action Against Hunger + 2

Yet, no one has yet ruled that plastic production is forbidden. That war is not only a violation of humanity, but also killing the environment. Any war affects everybody, not only those directly involved and victimised by it. The CEO emissions blown into the atmosphere, the trees killed, the ground water poisoned during a time that water bankruptcy has become the new standard.

This all happened because of the patriarchal system behind capitalism. Exponential monetary growth uncoupled from responsibility. As soon as companies went into the hands of managers, who had no intrinsic motivation and emotional attachment towards clients and employees, it became a machine, an anonymous motor to generate meaningless, superfluous wealth. Yet, the true wealth of health, happiness and community vanished and was deemed an obstacle to economic power.

The system – patriarchy and capitalism as currently is – is essentially anti-life.

So, the question then is why anybody in general and women in particular should comply to a system that is so clearly against them. And – I must stress that yes, many women succeed in the system. These are male-centred women, who live a patriachal lifestyle, who benefits from the systems and might even enjoy the perks. But that is survivor bias. Just because there are exceptions does not make the argument void of significance.

So, the only reasonable thing to do then is to, first, disengage from the narrative and to, second, change the narrative.  To take back agency.

Whenever I use the word matriarchy people flinch. To many, this seems like a more aggressive version of the dreaded feminism. The feminism that has been coined as unsexy, unwomanly throughout the decades and centuries. But, feminism is creating equity for women in an existing patriarchal system – matriarchy is changing the system altogether.

Matriarchy is NOT handing all positions of power to men. That is why men have a harder time imagining this concept. While Patriarchy is a hierarchy, there is up and down, matriarchy is a circle, revolving around children and community. Men are not worth less – they are equal. Everybody is providing their share to keep everyone healthy and happy and abundant. No skill is worth more, and all ideas are vetted against their impact on the community, on mother Earth, on climate, on animals, on the tribe’s future welfare. When the indigenous people of the Americas hunted buffaloes, they killed as little as possible and as many as necessary – because if they killed all, they would not have anything to eat the next day. They understood that there needs to be balance in everything.

Living on this planet is a give and take.

We as humans have settled on taking without giving back for the last couple of hundred years. We have destroyed the equilibrium that is necessary for the survival of our species, of mankind. And we did this under the leadership of men. Politics, religion, society – education, health, energy, media, oil, plastic. It’s all been in the hand of men. Exclusively. Data centers, digital IDs, climate crisis, social media crisis of the younger generations. Depression, anxiety, eating disorders. This all is caused and affected by patriarchy valuing growth, money and power over human life and community.

In the USA, it is almost impossible to have kids or medical emergencies without being in debt or facing bankruptcy. Prices are continually climbing. We are condoning child molesters and rapists in officer we are condoning genocide.

All men contributing with their white male privilege to this machinery are complicit. Those that do not speak out about genocide or any other patriarchal, colonial or zionist endeavour, that do not hold accountable those that are hurting us as a human species – they are complicit.

And, I like to include everybody’s favourite star – Taylor Swift. She had a massive wedding in the midst of a heat wave, using tons of electricity while the rest of New York was asked to conserve energy, she flies more miles than any other star ever did blowing gigantic amounts of emissions into the air and had her wedding officiated by a pledged zionist. Zionism is not a religion, it is political, it is racist, it is condoning  the slaughter of babies and establishing an apartheid state.

Yes, Gaza is part of the matriarchal discourse. It has to be. All wars, all colonial crimes. All genocides. All exploitations based on capitalist principles and patriarchal structures has to be part of the conversation.

I want to add that women contributing to this are equally complicit – yet they often lack the means, the opportunities and the agency to change the narrative because of the conveniently placed internal regulation mechanisms of beauty, Disney and fashion.

So, yes, men fucked up.

All men.

How can Matriarchy and matriarchal thinking help you become unapologetically extraordinary – and basically help everybody?

Easy, in a matriarchal society everybody is valued for their skills and strengths. Whether you are great at premonition or connecting with spirit, guiding communities, hunting, preparing food or shelter, making sense of the world, reading the stars, embellish the environment with creative artistry, connect with and guide children, speak truth or justice, love to work with money and organisation, be entertaining, extroverted or introverted, tactical or strategic. To have a fully alive community, each one is integrated and valued for their contribution. Hence, tuning into your skills, talents, gifts, values and standards, carving a path aligned with who you actually are is the default – or should be.

I am not blind to how the world works neither to the seemingly unsurmountable challenges to comprehend such a vastly different concept. Yet, if each and every company and business was vetted for their positive contribution to the community and whether or to they are harming anyone or anything, this would already be a matriarchal principle. With one swoop most of the most damaging companies would be gone. Would prices go up? Maybe. Would we all benefit? Definitely. What if all child molesters, murderers and those committing crimes against women, children and the environment have to pay retribution, help rebuild the world, plant trees, do the tasks that we need someone to do.

So, yes, maybe we need a revolution. But, this time, let it be a matriarchal revolution that at least something good comes out of. Do I know how this revolution should or could look like? No, I don’t. But I know that this is the only way humanity might have a single shred of hope of survival.

So, if you are a mother, you should be rooting for matriarchy – not because you want power, but you want your children and grandchildren to live. And you want the children and grandchildren of any other mother to live as well.